Free Time

You know, something said to us all the time is at least we still can do what we want. We can go out, spend money, take random trips, and not think about a child to take care of or find daycare. I will say yes, we do go out and do things. We are not home a ton. No, we do not have to worry about daycare or other expenses that are related to a child and can spend extra on ourselves. But, have you ever thought about the fact that maybe we are tired of doing all these things? I would love a reason to stay home and not avoid home because we have nothing there. It is a reminder of an empty nest for us at times. Ya, ya enjoy the freedom while you can. But we are READY to lose that freedom to a child. Some say they are jealous that we can up and leave for Chicago without thinking or go out to the bars. In all honesty, I am jealous of the ones that get to stay home and cuddle with their kids or do crafts and sports. That get those proud moments of things they do for the first time or later in life.

I know everyone has read that list of what not to say to a woman about when do you plan on having kids and more. But to me, this should be added to the list too. To not say well you have freedom right now and when you do have kids you are stuck for 18 years or enjoy it while it last. That is not exactly something to say to someone who desperately wants a child. I used to dream of 2 maybe 3 children. Now, I beg for one. Along with the expenses and hectic family life that comes with it.