Monday, August 28, 2017

Can You Believe It?

Well I sure in the heck can't! We go from over 3 years of praying and testing and such just to try and conceive. We go through drama with the Muscatine office of forgetting to put in my blood draws and call in my medications. We switch to Iowa City and BOOM -- Zoey is conceived. I always tell Robert I blame him and the nurse for 70% of the pregnancy and me only 30% as it was him and the Nurse who did all the work! It is a funny joke between us.

I am officially 2 weeks from my due date and couldn't be more excited/nervous/impatient and more. It, at times, does feel surreal. I do feel like I have been pregnant FOREVER beings we found out we were pregnant before most couples do. I want a BEER! But most of all, I want to meet his little baby girl that has been kicking my ass for the past 9 months and even more so the last few weeks. I will be honest, I try not to complain because we wanted this so badly but I am understanding why women can't wait to be done towards the end. I am a heifer and pretty miserable lately but I would do it all over again!

Labor-- Man I am so scared. I am sure I have the same fears of any first time mother but some of them include complications that something will happen to one of us or both. My anxiety does not help what so ever! (Which I can say I have controlled extremely well through these months without meds) I wouldn't mind if some would share some of their experiences or even advice of what to expect and such. Epidurals? I am not against myself getting one but I also want to push myself to deal with the pain.

Our birthing plan is that Robert and I will be the only ones in the room. We will get up to the hospital, and if we are staying until Zoey is born, than we will call/text immediate family/friends. The one thing that we have decided is the waiting room will be our Families best friend! With all my anxiety and being a first timer, we have decided as well that nobody will be in the room beforehand. Don't get me wrong, I may get all freaked out and want my Mommy or my sister. I can't promise it will go as planned. Our original plan was to tell nobody until after her birth but decided if our requests can be respected, we can change them :) It is Robert's parent's first grand baby and sister's first niece. It is a big deal to my mom beings I am her baby and having a baby! So, probably shouldn't be completely selfish right?

I figure this is my last blog post until after she is born and then I get to share all my fears and screw ups :) as well as the successes. I am truly exhausted and ready for her to come so we have been reading old wise tales to try to coax her out! But, with all we have been through, we figure we will end up past our due date and induced! We are so excited the time is almost here. Thank you ALL for always supporting us and following our journey of infertility. Life is about to change dramatically for us.

Monday, June 26, 2017

Birth Control.. Thoughts..

So, Baby Girl is due in only at most 11 weeks. Holy Moly :) I brought up a conversation to Robert about birth control. We have some questions that have come up but also so decisions to make. I know people have heard of someone with infertility having one child and all of a sudden a fertile myrtle. and vice versa. My thoughts are that if I can get pregnant without the fertility drugs and the IUI, well bring it on! Does that mean I do not get on birth control as soon as the baby is born? Just let nature take its course and possibly end up pregnant right away?

Or do I get on birth control and chance the possibility of it throwing my body back to exactly where it was? I think, well do I want a baby right away again if it were to happen? But, do I want to take the chance away that it could happen naturally? There are so many what ifs as well as the fact that you should really give your body a rest. We plan on only having two children so if they are close together, maybe that wouldn't be so bad. As I say this, my sister's two boys cross my mind that are under a year apart and drive her insane and fight like cats and dogs... Not to mention, having my body back and being able to do more.

What to do? What to do? I am honestly leaning towards the no birth control aspect because there is a larger possibility we still can't get pregnant on our own and why put anything into my body? Plus, there are more less invasive ways to prevent babies.. condoms and such. I am sure my doctor will have the same scenarios brought up and still leave it up to us. Any thoughts?

Quick update on the pregnancy: Had to be seen last week and monitored due to spotting and contractions. No dilation which is great. But, to be on the safe side, we did steriod shots for her lungs to develop quicker. She will be here before we know it and I become more nervous each day :)

Thursday, May 4, 2017

Unexpected University Visit

Well, things have taken another twist for baby girl, Robert and I. The past week or so have been pretty stressful outside of the pregnancy so when I started bleeding yesterday I thought nothing of it as it's happened so many other times. It had been a while though and I hadn't had a normal reason behind it. I called up and beings I'm in the middle of the second trimester, they wanted to do an ultrasound.  Robert dropped me off at the door and went to park. They called me back before he got upstairs which usually the ultrasound is nice and quick. This time she couldn't see my cervix well enough so she did a transvaginal. They were very quiet and pushing on my belly. All of a sudden she asks if I can stay put because she needed to grab the what i we found out was a high risk doctor. Heart starts racing and all I wish is I could reach my phone to get Robert. I knew something must be wrong. She came back in and explained that my cervix had shortened significantly. Explained the risks and the procedures and prevention, etc. It took all I could to not start crying for Robert. They let me get dressed and I went to the waiting room and started crying. Explained to Robert the situation at hand.

We waited for about 35 mins to see the OB.  Long wait. Let me tell ya... this was not our normal OB. What she explained was so difficult to hear. My cervix has shortened from 37mm to 14mm within a ten day period. I am only 21 weeks. I need to try to make it to 28 weeks but of course a lot further. I asked what could have caused this and the hematoma could be to blame but also just the luck of the draw. I'm at risk for preterm labor.  Everything was just a blur and overwhelming. I have to do  progesterone suppositories until she either comes or 38 weeks and of course minimal stress and activities need to be mild. At 23 weeks we will do steriod shots for her lungs to develop quicker. I can say I know it will be ok but I won't. I'm very scared. Emotional. I can feel so much pressure on my cervix but she also is head down. I have to go back in 2 weeks to see if it has shortened any more. I WILL say that we are at the right hospital if she were to come early. Prayers are appreciated and just positive vibes. Can't seem to catch a break huh? My thought is took us over 3 years to get here, why get any easier? She is a miracle either way. Isn't she just beautiful!

Wednesday, April 26, 2017

A Word About National Infertility Awareness Week

With this week being the National Infertility Awareness Week I thought I would post. It is going to be short and sweet because you all know my story, and if you don’t, you can back track on the blog J. We found out we are having a little girl and we couldn’t be more excited. Finally, a gender instead of “the baby.” No matter if I have bad days or scary days, I love being pregnant. I want to take a moment to appreciate the fact that I am pregnant and half way through. To thank everyone who has been supportive and to the University of Iowa for their amazing care. We would not be where we are today without the staff and Reproductive Endocrinology department. They truly care about the outcome as well as so informative and honest. To all my family and friends who have been along for the ride, thank you. We also could not have done it without you. 


To those suffering and dealing with infertility, please don’t give up. I personally know that is easier said than done. I promise you, that in the end, no matter the result, you will find happiness. It can take years of course. To be honest, we were starting to accept our fate of not experiencing pregnancy. What else can you do? Please don’t hesitate to talk about your situation. There are so many that deal with this and keep quiet. This is not something you should be ashamed of or keep bottled up. Speak out! Seek support! Don’t fight alone. I would never have made it emotionally without many people in my life letting me cry on their shoulder and listening. So, here is to #NIAW. I never wanted to be apart of it but I wouldn't change our path from where we are! 

Monday, March 27, 2017

What Can I Say?

I named this blog the Open Book Struggles of Infertility because I wanted to others not to be scared to talk about what they are going through when it comes to infertility. It is so terrible. I have people around me that still are fighting with infertility but my belief is keep the faith. I lost faith completely. With this IUI, I did not get my hopes up. I thought I had pissed God off and was being punished. Robert didn't believe in that. He ALWAYS believed we would be where we are today. I still believe that infertility should be an open book for others to talk about if they feel comfortable to. I have had SO many questions about the procedure, what is causing our infertility, etc. Putting yourself out there doesn't give you much privacy but I also found a lot of support in doing so.

 I can say this at least, I am still in awe. I have not written in a while because of that exact reason. I am 16 weeks pregnant today and I STILL can't believe it most of the time. I also feel so many emotions with the fact of how long it took to get here and that things can change in an instant. I fear the worst all the time which is exhausting. Anxiety for sure does not help that at all.

All of a sudden, I feel like my baby bump is no longer a fat bump. It is so crazy! Thanks to a friend, I can hear the heartbeat whenever I want. That is a beautiful gift for sure.

I still bleed and it just feels normal anymore. I am guessing with the fact that I have the doppler it definitely eases the mind when the bleeding incidents happen. Doctor still has no reasons behind it but said it obviously isn't a problem because my little baby cru is growing fast!

Robert, of course, is over protective of me. Doesn't want me over doing it and such. I love that he is that way, makes me know he will be even more protective over the baby. We get to find out the gender on April 21st! I  CANT WAIT! I am sure it will go fast. I have to say that my pregnancy has been blessed with mild symptoms. I think the worst would be fatigue. I am always so tired but so many women have it much worse. I love being pregnant for the most part!  I miss my beer ;)

Wednesday, February 15, 2017

The Journey So Far...Scares & All

As some of you know, this has been a bumpy ride thus far. We have had FIVE ultrasounds as of today and we are just over ten weeks pregnant. I have dealt with some scares with a SCH (Subchorionic Hematoma) that can cause miscarriage. It had started weeks ago and had mostly resolved itself. Then in that same week, my pants were saturated in blood. We ended up in the ER and then at the U the following Monday. Muscatine was not equipped to deal with the situation at hand. We did the ultrasound at the U and my RE doc basically said the truth. He said that we are either going to miscarry or this will resolve. I was at the point of accepting the news and also praying for the better outcome. Nothing scarier than your pants being soaked in bright red blood so hearing this prognosis, I was ready. After the appointment, I promised myself to take it easy and not over do anything to hopefully help my body heal.

Now, skipping forward to today. I hadn't had any gushing since that weekend which was a week and a half ago but doesn't mean I wasn't nervous as hell. I actually finally had an external ultrasound! The Ultrasound Tech asked if I was going for a record of most ultrasounds in only ten weeks. All I could think is, I would trade them for a healthy pregnancy in a heartbeat. Speaking of heartbeats, we heard the heartbeat for the first time today. And omg... Something I will never forget. The baby moving its small little arms and legs along with that strong heartbeat. I am instantly in love. I was very happy my Mother-In-Law was there to experience this as well with us. Along with hearing the heartbeat, NO MORE HEMATOMA! I am hoping it stays that way. The RE doc said that he hopes not to see me again this pregnancy :) I feel so relieved but I am so scared to feel relieved then something happen again. I am guessing that is a normal feeling in pregnancy definitely with all of our issues and infertility. I do feel like now I can start looking to the future and get excited to find out the gender. Decide on names, colors, decorations, baby shower, and diaper party! As always, thank you to all who have kept us in your thoughts, prayers, positive vibes, and all!

Wednesday, February 1, 2017

Cake..Eat it too..... PUKE

So, the symptoms have finally set in. I couldn't be more thankful but doesn't mean the symptoms are fun! Got your normal constipation, nausea, vomiting, fatigue, and oh my favorite, sore nipples/boobs. LOL Anyways, everyone knows how I am with my cooking and food. Well, pregnancy has definitely put a damper on that one! It can be cake, donuts, steak, chili, chinese, pretty much anything and within an hour I feel sick to my stomach which results in either puking or complaining to the husband. ( I bet he doesn't realize what he signed up for! )

Which, to bring him up brings up the whole boobs. There is a blinking red sign that says to my husband, "Touch my boobs, I throat punch you." Poor guy. I constantly blame him for everything from knocking me up to the Xbox controller being dead. (In my defense, he is the majority user of the Xbox downstairs) He keeps LAUGHING at me though! Gosh, I love this guy. Hormones are definitely dangerous for him. He should be careful.

Fat. Oh, do I just appear like I am gaining weight because whatever food I want, I eat and it definitely does not appear that I am pregnant. Give it a few months and hopefully I won't be mistaken for a starving cow anymore. Kind of like my Grandma pointing out (mind you, shes 80 and forgetful), that I need to watch my weight because it appears I have put some on. She doesn't sugarcoat SHIT! I force a smile and tell her well grandma I am pregnant.  Her response..... Doesn't mean you need to gain 40 lbs! *Shaking my head* I think the main thing everyone around me wants to do is just mess with the hormonal, starving, fat, pregnant lady. ;)

The point of this post is to giggle at all that I wished for and then also be thankful for it all. Am I going to complain? Well, I am a woman so that is inevitable. But never mistake my complaining for not being the most thankful I have ever been in my life to have a beating heart in my uterus. I smile most of the day due to the little strawberry sized baby growing inside of me.